| Herkese merhaba. Ben Seda. Hoşgeldiniz.Welcome to Turkish Class 101. Nasılsınız? |
| Today we will talk about family culture in Turkish. Fam, fam, fam… |
| Aile kültürü |
| Ok, first, today I will start a little differently. Before talking about the culture, |
| I will give you some idioms, some sentences about family to give you a |
| gist of how we perceive family, okay? |
| Etle tırnak ayrılmaz. |
| You cannot separate the nail and cuticle. This means like siblings are like nail and cuticles |
| and it doesn't matter how hard they fight, they are destined to be together. |
| Another one, |
| Cennet anaların ayakları altındadır. |
| heaven is under the feet of mothers. This glorifies motherhood as you can guess. |
| Another one, this is an interesting one, let me check. |
| Baş kırılır börk içinde kalır, kol kırılır yen içinde kalır. |
| This is a little harder to translate. It means when you have a problem in the family, |
| you don't talk about it outside the family. It's like the mafia in Italian movies. Anyway, |
| it literally means if you break your head, it stays in the, you know, |
| Turkic traditional hat. And if you break your arm, it stays in the fur. So nobody sees it, |
| that you break, you broke somewhere. As you can see, it is from nomadic Turkish times. |
| Now people only say “kol kırılır yen içinde kalır”, and I don't think a lot of Turkish people know what yen and börk is. These are not regular daily life vocabulary. Börk is a traditional Turkish |
| hat, Turkic hat from before the times, before the Ottoman times, actually. And yen is a coat |
| made of animal fur while they were hunting and blah, blah, blah. And I think these were, |
| you know, these were to give you an idea of Turkish, traditional Turkish family matters. |
| I will explain further. However, I have to say, these will be generalizations. Everybody is |
| different and there are all kinds of families out there. We have 80 million people living in |
| this country. And with modern life, I think all families around the world look very similar to |
| each other, like having less kids, commuting between work and home, dealing with modern day |
| life, adopting animals, living in smaller apartments and so on. Okay, now let's start. |
| Yasa |
| Law |
| Türkiye Cumhuriyeti anayasasına göre aile Türk toplumun temelidir ve eşler arasında eşitliğe dayanır. According to the Constitution of the Republic of Turkey, the family is the foundation of Turkish society and is based on equality between spouses. |
| The civil law got updated years ago about equality between spouses. Before this update, |
| the husband was seen as the head of the household. But right now, both spouses are equal in every aspect of marriage legally. |
| Türk aile yapısı |
| Turkish family structure. |
| For Turkish people, family is still the most important social institution. Although divorce rates are getting higher and higher, traditional family structures are still the basis of society. In rural areas, |
| large families are more common. What I mean is like families are more crowded with more kids |
| and aunts, uncles, grandparents, all living together. But in big cities, generally families |
| are made like kids and parents. |
| Saygı |
| Respect |
| There's a Turkish series called Saygı. |
| Aile büyüklerine saygı Türkler için çok önemlidir. Respect to elders are very important to Turkish |
| people. Married couples move out to start their own families in their separate houses in big cities |
| especially. But they do take care of their parents in old age. Old age houses,yaşlı bakım evleri |
| they are not very common in Turkey. We have some of course, but generally families take care of each other through thick and thin. And this is actually both ways. Parents of young adults also |
| help out the new couple. Sometimes by cooking for them, cleaning for them, taking care of |
| grandchildren, even helping out with money and other stuff. I mean in general family bonds are |
| very strong and always there and moving up doesn't change much. Okay, the next title is |
| Ailedeki Roller. Roles of family members. |
| Generally the family lives close to each other and that's how they help each other out. |
| And although the traditional families, there are gender-based roles, in younger generations |
| these roles fade away. In younger generations both men and women work so that they earn |
| their own money and they spend it together. They raise their kids together and it's much more equal from the previous generations taking care of the kids and the house is generally on the woman. |
| And sometimes even though the woman also has a full-time job, she also takes care of the house, takes care of the house and the children. So there is a long way to accomplish full equality between genders in real life. |
| And in more traditional families, their husband is the bread-winning member of the home and while the women take care of the household and the children and in most traditional houses even the girls in the family are treated differently than the boys, where boys have more freedom. |
| As I said before, modern life times has made changes in traditional family culture. Women participate more in economic activities outside the home but unfortunately as I stated before this has added extra burden on the woman and not all men helps up with the domestic chores so women have to do it all. Hopefully this will get better in the future with each new generation. |
| Bayramlar Seyranlar - Feasts |
| We talked about this before. Even though we have different religions in Turkey, most people |
| are Muslim and religious Muslim holidays are celebrated very similar. We have two religious |
| Holidays- bayrams. Ramazan and Kurban. |
| Although there are differences in celebration of these festivals you know |
| religiously, culturally they are celebrated very very similar I think in every home with a huge bayram meal, visiting relatives visiting parents visiting grandparents and enjoying each other's company. |
| Akrabalar - Relatives |
| Turkish people are very into relatives. I don't know how to explain this but we have lots and |
| lots of relatives cousins and cousins and cousins and all relatives from both sides |
| the father’s and the mother’s are considered as part of the family and it's not uncommon |
| to have like dozens of uncles aunts cousins all together and let me give you some vocabulary on the family members |
| Kuzen - cousin |
| Kuzenimi çok seviyorum. |
| I love my cousin very much |
| Amca |
| Paternal uncle |
| we have different uncles |
| Amcam babamdan kısa |
| my paternal uncle is shorter than shorter than my father |
| Dayı |
| Maternal uncle |
| Benim dayım yok. |
| I don’t have a maternal uncle. |
| teyze |
| maternal aunt |
| Teyze anne yarısıdır. |
| maternal aunt is half of a mother |
| This is actually an idiom by the way it's uh people say this “teyze annenin yarısıdır.” |
| Hala |
| Paternal aunt |
| Halam Amerika’dan geliyor. |
| My paternal aunt is coming from the US. |
| okay let's keep going uh this one is sometimes weird to people from western world but this play |
| affection between family members is very common. We are like touchy people, we hug, we kiss. we ask we question and like Turkish people can be found too much involved and we love to ask about family even in business meetings so don't feel weird if you are like talking business with a Turkish person and get asked about your spouse or you know kids or parents even and You can get asked if you think about marrying or having kids or about your parents and this is normal talking about family is like a conversation starter for us so don't get offended or something like that just answer as much as you want okay |
| food food good food |
| yemek yemek yemek |
| food is part of our |
| culture most I think most of cultures but even the food culture is maybe a little different than |
| the western countries a little even in younger generations cooking at home is very common we |
| love home cooked meals and we are ready to prepare it if a newly couple is very busy |
| working outside home their parents can help out with the cooking of course eating out |
| or ordering in is an option and but it's more like a you know a special occasion than a daily |
| regular activity this is not the way we eat generally as I said before these are generalizations |
| but mostly true okay I'm done for now we have different videos about weddings, funerals, holidays, food and stuff and you can get the idea of Turkish society by watching them all so what do you think which parts are similar to your culture or very different than yours and tell your nationality and write about your own culture in the comments I love seeing comments from all over the world and I hope you enjoyed this video I will see you next time |
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